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Our shadow is any hidden, secret, repressed or denied part(s) of ourselves that we do not wish to own, claim, share or let anyone else know about.

Because God forbid… “what will people think of me?”.

We want to keep it under wraps because it aint pretty. In fact it’s really ugly!

Our fear is that if people knew our deepest, darkest shadows, they would judge us, dislike us, attack us or worst still…abandon us, which is our deepest collective core wound.

So what we do is push our shadow down and suppress it or project it, so we don’t have to deal with it and so no one else sees it – because it’s not exactly “socially acceptable”.

{On a side note: Why do you think so many women have issues with their yoni’s and wombs? Because we squish all our problems DOWN…below the belt…and often it’s because we are guilting and shaming ourselves for being sexual, or in a our ‘slut’ energy.}

Think of it this way…

What happens to a beach ball when you hold or push it under water? It pops right back out…sometimes with a vengeance!

Shadows are like beach balls. And take it from me, it takes a lot of energy to keep them underwater! Hidden, secret, away from where anyone can see them…

This is what happens when we don’t own & accept (or even look at) at our shadow. She rears her ugly head, and often in nasty, over-the-top, projective and reactive ways.

Yet, if we were to OWN our shadow, it wouldn’t come out in such aggressive or passive aggressive ways, as we would have integrated it into our being.

When we own our shadow, we don’t feel ashamed of her, and she also doesn’t have power or control over us. Also no one can hurt us, if we love our shadow. For example, if I own that I am insecure, messy, flakey or a jealous person, if someone were to tell me I am that – I wouldn’t take offence, because I own that “shadow” part of me.

It’s not about cutting her out, avoiding her or banishing her. It’s actually about integrating her, being aware of her and bringing her into our world…to love and accept.

Because really, that’s what she needs!

Not to be ignored.

 

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Why is it important to own our shadow?


 

The spiritual path is not just about love and light; it’s about shining that love and light on our darkness.

It’s about bringing the unconscious into the conscious.

“Everyone carries a shadow and the less it is embodied in the individual’s conscious life, the blacker and denser it is.” ~ Carl Jung

Because it’s when your shadow is lurking in the unconscious mind that it’s the most destructive and can f*ck your life. However bringing it into the conscious mind, brings it out of the dark and into the light.

And it helps to do it with mindful awareness without judgement.

We are incarnated into physical, human form to experience a range of emotions, some being high and some being low. When we go back to spirit, we will return to love and light. In fact, we still have our soul, our spirit, within us so we always have love and light within us anyway. We are never alone. We are never separated from this. However our mind (ego) separates us from love.

We are here to learn how to manage, transmute, transfigure our darkness, rather than letting it rule our life.

Owning, claiming, honouring and learning how to love and accept your shadow is a journey of unification, integration and reconciliation; a journey of becoming WHOLE.

We are light and dark, yin and yang, masculine and feminine – one is not “good or bad”, just different.

We are not here to renunciate our darkness or cut it our of our life – that’s impossible. It’s also not about indulging yourself in your darkness, it’s about accepting it.

When we are hating, judging and shaming ourselves, we are in resistance energy, however when we are compassionate, understanding and unconditional, we are in surrender energy.

Feel the difference in your body now. Which one feels better?

Can you love BOTH parts of you?


What’s the New Moon got to do with anything?


 

Every New Moon is a time of endings and new beginnings, as it’s the end of a lunar cycle and the beginning of a new one.

As it’s a dark moon (you can’t see it in the sky), it’s a wonderful time to reflect on the shadow elements that you have been facing during the past lunar cycle and how you have grown.

Naturally we are in a more vulnerable, inward, sensitive and emotional state during the Dark Moon and the days leading up to. Think of it like a woman’s menstrual cycle. Whether you’re man or woman, we are made of 70% water, thus we are highly governed by the moon and her cycles. Think of the New Moon as your period, so leading up to the New Moon we get PMS symptoms and feel a heightened amount of emotions in our body.

I believe the time leading up to our menstrual cycle and the New Moon are valuable times to look within and reassess, reflect, shed, allow emotions to release, and come together as women in a “Red Tent” environment. The red tent was a sacred tradition practised in ancient cultures when women would gather at every new moon to rest, eat, share stories and support each other, usually when they were bleeding. In fact when the New Moon coincides with a woman’s moontime she is even more sensitive to her higher insights and inner wisdom.

Coming together as women every New Moon and sharing your challenges and shadow work will help in all areas of your life – relationships, career, friendships, health…

The more honest we are with ourselves and our sisters, the less burden we have to carry, and it’s nice to create ritual during this sacred time of the month. The Dark Moon is a powerful and sacred time to create a ritual of witnessing, observing and looking at the Shadow, without shame, blame or judgement. This is all part of embodying the “Divine Feminine” and seeing our challenges, growing edges and places of transformations for what they are. Incredibly healing.

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Ask yourself…


 

If you want to get more in touch with your shadow, now is the time. The sooner you own (rather than avoid, suppress or judge) your shadow, the sooner you will feel WHOLE, remember that self love is accepting ALL of who you are – light and dark.

These questions relate to what you have been experiencing over the past month (lunar cycle):

What challenges have you been facing?

What lessons are you learning?

What insecurities and old wounds are (re)surfacing?

What are you fearing most?

How have you reacted to fear?

Who has been triggering you?

What are you not owning in yourself?

What are you avoiding?

What are you self sabotaging?

Love

RRx

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Rosie Rees is a Relationship Coach, founder of Women's Nude Yoga & a sexuality specialist helping women become sexually liberated. Rosie runs regular Women's Nude Yoga classes to help empower, liberate and free women of their body image issues. She also supports and shares the Yoni Egg and Crystal Pleasure Wand self pleasure practices as she believes they are the ultimate tool for self love and self pleasure. Rosie also blogs candidly about all things, love, sex, orgasms, spirituality and relationships.

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4 Comments

  • Dessiree richard2 years ago

    It was very nice to read this. I follow your Instagram! That is how I came upon your blog.today I am going to start my menstrual cycle and it is my first time celebrating my moon time. I’m very excited. Last night I dreamt of some things that made me realize what I need to let go of to become whole. Ever sense I was a little girl my dreams have always been vivid (not always in a good way) but I have been learning how to listen to my inner wisdom and take notice of my emotions and where they stem from. I would like to ask what ritual is done during a red tent gatehring? I wish to be apart but I have alot of letting go of past relationships as none of them are on the journey I am on now. No longer serving me and are detrimental. With that said I have no lady friends in order to perform the ritual with but want to know of maybe one j can do alone? Also how can I better communivate with my love that I need this time for me how can I tell him that I need him to help me or help him to understand how important this is to me? I love your blog (: and your IG thank you for pouring out wisdom!
    Love and blessings
    Dessie <3

  • Aunty K2 years ago

    I am sure there is an astrologer lurking inside of you, Rosie….. And I love all that you write!! xx

  • Kerri2 years ago

    Oh Rosie! Thanks so much for sharing this! I honestly have felt like I’ve had pms the past 2 days, but it’s the moon – so pleased to have an explaination
    Thanks lady xx

  • Rosslyn1 year ago

    Dear Rosie,

    The Mookatite egg arrived with those GIFTS intact. I have used this MOOKATITE.
    It does connect psychic wise!

    Do you have a V steam and exotic herbs; please?

    Rosslyn.

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