I met my partner, Ares, in August 2014 when I moved to Perth.
I had just driven over 3000kms across Australia in my beep beep Barina (Libby), full to the brim with my life’s possessions and my parents in tow.
Loving yourself isn't just about writing down affirmations on your mirror, meditating once a day or being your own best friend. There is so much more to 'self love' than this. First of all, let me clear something up. Self love and putting yourself #1 is not selfish. I repeat NOT selfish. In fact it's better for everyone in your life if you love yourself, since: "You simply can't fill up someone else's cup if yours is empty." I have also realised that self love stems from a total and utter self acceptance. Accepting ALL the pieces of you that you love...and don't necessarily love (yep, that's your muffin top, your jealous bitch side, your upper lip hairs, your wonky vagina etc.). Because when we surrender to our wholeness of light and dark, that's when we radiate love and fullness. We are whole. And besides, how much sexier is a woman who owns ALL of who she is? I love to offer my clients slightly unique, more 'open-minded' ways to connect with the love for ourself. Take what resonates and leave the rest. These are FOUNDATIONAL practices and a great place to start...
The other day I was walking down the stairs at home in my short (very short) yoga pants. My partner’s Reiki client was sitting in our lounge room and she looked up at me as I was coming downstairs and says [with much enthusiasm] “Wow, what powerful, strong legs you have!”
The old Rosie would have taken offence to this comment, thinking she meant I was fat. Ego-driven, self-sabotagey Rosie would have been embarrassed, insulted and ashamed of her ‘shapely’ legs.
However, what flew out my mouth surprised me!
I said “THANKS!!” with a big smile on my face.
And it was genuine.
I was chuffed that she admired my curvaceous thighs. And even more chuffed that I f*cking loved them too!
The way we are showing up sexually is a good indicator of what is going on deep within us.
"As in the bedroom, so in life".
They are not separate; in fact, they are VERY linked.
This is pertinent in my life at present as in the past week that I have not been prioritising my pleasure. In fact I have been putting off delicious love making sessions with my partner - saying something along the lines of: 'Oh maybe later, I just have a few things to do at the moment,' or 'After my cup of tea,' or 'Hmm, I have a head ache,' or 'I want to have a shower and wash my hair first,’ or ‘I’m just too tired right now’.
The list goes on!!
Recently I was sitting in a sister circle with about 25 women and we were sharing our experiences with sexuality.
A broad topic of conversation, yes, but deeply healing when discussed openly in a safe space with other conscious women.
As we all opened up, became vulnerable and shared our experiences I realised one thing: the women all had a similar story around sexuality and their relationship with sex.
And most stories were along the lines of one of these…
Guest post by Nadine Lee.
Much like all aspects that offer us empowerment, societal conditioning has created a culture of taboo & shame; a woman’s menstrual cycle is one of those. Look at how many women see their menstrual cycle as a ‘burden’. In a fast paced masculine dominated world where we are always DOING, there is no room to rest & surrender, to reflect, to simply BE.
If you’ve found yourself in an toxic or abusive relationship, which is not serving either of your highest good, it’s time to cut chords - physically and emotionally. If you didn't get a chance to read my previous article on determining whether you’re in an emotionally abusive relationship, you can read it here. I am all for working it out after a fight, argument or disagreement and not running away as soon as things get a little tough, however there is a difference between normal relationship niggles and settling because you don’t believe you're worth more (or because you believe he/she will change).
Over the past couple of months I have attracted a handful of clients into my realm who currently are or have been in emotionally (and physically) abusive relationships. And I believe I have attracted these women into my field as I am now…ready. Ready to share my story and help women who are…trapped.
Winter-time was a long, tough slog in the Rosie HQ, and not only because it was so bloody cold in Perth. There were a handful of things happening in my life, which I needed time to process (hence why I took a lengthy break from the blog).