The New Sexy
Guest Post by Sonja Shrada Devi from WildSacredFeminine
I know when i was growing up I thought sexiness belonged to ‘the cool girls’, the girls with good looks and special ‘sexual skills’. I felt awkward and totally disconnected from my body and sexual pleasure.
Thankfully that’s all changed. I have been on a profound journey to make friends with my body, I have gotten super intimate with my intimate terrain. And I have embraced what I call ‘the new sexy’ as a full time job.
And I cannot recommend it enough!
As women in western consumerist culture, we are drip fed a wide range of conflicting sexual messages, few of which guide us on how to create a deeply honoring and intimate relationship with our own bodies, and our sexuality.
The result? We have lost touch with our natural, innocent, super juicy and joyful sexual connection.
It really is high time we re defined sexy!
So what is THE NEW SEXY ???
It is a ‘sexy’ that is not a skill or a qualification, but rather a state of being, that is available to all women, regardless of how they look or what they do.
Rather, it is an experience of sexuality birthed and nourished by our relationship to ourselves. When we are embodying it we feel connected to our source, our true power, boundless pleasure and love.
Here are some tips for finding, and embodying, and ENJOYING ‘the new sexy’ for yourself.
1. Invite the universe to your party.
The whole universe is rumbling with creative energy, particularly as women, we are fine-tuned to FEEL, on an emotional, energetic and physical level.
We do not need to go anywhere to get ‘full up’ on sensation, all we have to do is turn our loving attention to our own universe (the one inside of our bodies- and particularly our sexual organs) and get in touch with the subtle sensations there!
Sadly so many women are disconnected from the aliveness in their sexual organs. So many women have all their attention stuck in their heads all day long, and is it any wonder that they don’t feel sexy? One of the most powerful meditations a woman can do it to direct her focused and loving awareness on the sensations in her yoni (her sacred space/pussy/vulva).
I smile to my sexual palace and recognize my sexuality as sacred.
2. Let the dark feminine show her face
Sometimes sexy is loud and angry, it wants to bite and howl and grind and roar! There is so much power in our fear, anger, shame and rage. The more you are able to allow and embody these feelings, the more space will become available for you to feel the more blissful and beautiful feelings in your body.
Create the time and space to feel and express your darker feelings and believe me, you will find glowing jewels of erotic bliss hiding there in your deepest darkest corners.
I create the time and space to honor and express my anger, rage and grief.
3. Celebrate your body
Fuck it, why not? What else is a woman’s body for than to create and celebrate? Why would we be made to be oh so sensitive if we were supposed to cut off from that and become half dead, dumbed down, ‘normal’ androgynous beings? or perhaps just a surface image of beauty with nothing really going on underneath…?
It makes so much more sense for us to make the most of what we have and to take our sensual nature to the next level, beyond appearance, back to the throb of sensual aliveness which is available to ALL women, at all times.
I am a sensual succulent woman and I enjoy pleasure as an act of devotion.
…like you simply are the most precious being in the world, hold your belly and tell yourself you are safe and SO loved ….massage unconditional love vibrations into your breasts as you loosen up your jaw and say “ahhhhhhhhhhh”.
I nurture my health and happiness by massaging my breasts with love.
5. Play and pray!
Explore your capacity to feel pleasure in subtle sensations, play with sensual movement, with the slither and slide and rumble and tumble of sexual energy as it traverses its way through your body. Experience your sexual energy as a gift from the goddess, the holiest of holy, the original spark of life, bow down to it, cherish it, circulate it through every inch of your beautiful body.
6. Fly the flag for the goddess…
Not because you have something to prove, not because you are more special than any other woman…. Fly it because when you do you give yourself the permission to be magnificent, and you inspire other women to join you.
Be a walking permission slip!
Do it because you recognize yourself as a representative of the feminine here on earth, do us proud, love yourself in all your messiness and glory, and encourage others to do so too.
7. Gather with other women and celebrate feminine energy
I travel the world holding sacred sexual feminine rituals so that women may experience for themselves the meeting place of their spirituality, sexuality and their own authentic version of ‘sexy’. I am constantly amazed at the powerful transformations I continually witness when women come together to reconnect to their natural sexiness. The group field created by a circle of women can facilitate extreme magic, allowing women to release shame and find self acceptance and authentic sexiness- in record time.
Truly…..An authentically self connected sexy woman is a gift to herself and the whole world, just by being HER.
Enjoy the new sexy sister!!!!
Shradha is a modern day Priestess, Healer, Sensual Empowerment coach, Writer and Tantra Teacher. She supports women and men to move OUT of guilt, fear, shame and blame, connect to their embodied power and create juicy lives and next level intimate relationships.
Based in Bali she travels the world offering powerful group rituals and retreats, intimacy workshops and coaching sessions, mentors women in her on line ‘Feminine Rising Tribe’, and writes on all things sacred, spiritual, sensual and feminine in her widely read Blog.
Those who work with her frequently report that they have powerful transformational experiences and feel loved, beautiful, alive, juicy, powerful and connected, fully, for the first time. She will help you transform your tears into gold, orgasms into prayers, and your life into a wild sacred adventure!
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