In Kundalini Yoga we are required to practice a daily sadhana (practice of yoga, meditation and chanting), either in a group or individually, to:
- Connect to and remember our soul nature
- Clear our consciousness
- Relate to the infinity within – our higher self
- Gain clarity around the purpose of our life
- Cultivate more wisdom, commitment and consistency
- Tune up our nervous system
- Honour our physical bodies, our sacred temple.
“It’s a committed prayer. It is something which you want to do, have to do, and which is being done by you. … Sadhana is self-enrichment. It is not something which is done to please somebody or to gain something. Sadhana is a personal process in which you bring out your best.”
A Sensual Sadhana is a daily practice of sensual pleasure dedicated to self love. In my opinion, self pleasure is the most direct means to experiencing self love, as you are literally MAKING LOVE to yourself.
- A sensual breast massage whilst in the bath tub.
- Lubricating and moisturising your entire body with coconut oil (ha, this turns me on in itself!).
- Brushing your hair whilst standing naked in front of the mirror.
- Observing your Yoni in the mirror and looking and touching it in places you never have.
- Eating grapes and enjoying every singe moist mouthful.
- Using a crystal wand inside you and not expecting an orgasmic goal, just doing it to infuse more love within you.
- Wearing a Jade Egg for the day and infusing it with an intention.
- Doing a Kundalini Yoga practice and allowing your sexual energy to penetrate your entire body and Chakras.
- Reading an erotic novel and touching yourself whilst reading it (it’s OK to fantasise – it has a time and place)
- Lathering yourself in essential oils (grab some beautiful Doterra blends here)
You get my gist…
The reason I don’t simply call it a ‘masturbation’ or ‘solo sex’ is because it’s more than that.
Sexuality and spirituality are deeply linked and connected. In fact a lot of clients comes to me with ‘sexual dysfunction’, when in fact it’s just the tip of the iceberg and they have a full blown spiritual awakening knocking at their door.
I regress. So, back to my point…How to transform your flicking-the-bean under the doona into a spiritual practice? Well, a spiritual practice is pure; it brings you closer to ‘God’ or your connection to source; it’s growth-induced; a moving meditation and a means for reaching your full potential. It makes you radiate, and glow. It makes you feel light and happy and juicy. It empowers you. Fill you up. Makes you feel warm and fuzzy.
Your Sexual Sadhana can be anything that makes you feel sensual, erotic, sexy, gooey, yummy, juicy, loved, luscious, delicious and connected.
“I connect to my Yoni most days. For me self pleasure is essential. I have so much sexual energy, and because I am currently single I feel it’s in my best interest to embody being my own lover”.
“For me it began with honouring my heart, acknowledging I need to gift as much pleasure to myself as I do others, most of all identifying the difference between masturbation & self pleasure, I began to embody breathe work, as I thought this would be a gentle way to wein me into this conscious realm, however turned out it gifted me some of the most pleasurable experiences I have encountered.The breath-work has allowed me to be fully present, disconnect from my mind & open me to a ridiculous amount of sensations flowing & residing within my whole body that I also never noticed. I have gotten creative, experimenting, with no real method or knowledge, sensual arousing sacred touch, my hands, fingertips, exploring my own body, in safe spaces around my home, I’d light candles, just for myself, I’d have my healthy masculine take my healthy feminine on a date, I’d create my own world, that made me feel safe, safe enough to wonder parts of my physical I’d never explored, I introduced crystals, yoni wands, Water, different spaces, I then practiced walking around naked alone, I have never been confident being naked until now, I’d get a kick out of walking outside naked, the air on my skin, was pleasure, I can’t believe I’ve been missing out on this relationship with myself for this many decades, I love to infuse my body with essential oils, elevating the warmth and cellular vibration, I adore making love to myself as I dress, wear sheer & sacred fabrics on my skin, I treat myself with random, pleasure everyday, dance, meditation, but reclaiming my body and activating self pleasure for me all begins with breath, a sacred spaced infused with love and the rest is up to my healthy masculine, to make love to me and guide me to self pleasure experimenting”.
“I like to explore in my self pleasure practice by using a mirror. This helps me reach the sexual space where I can ejaculate and fully release and let go.”
“I self pleasure in the bathroom at work, in the shower, in bed, in nature, wherever and whenever I feel the inspiration to serve and workship my Yoni. We have an incredible relationship these days!”
“I love floating around the house by wearing what I love and playing ‘Goddess dress-ups’. This brings me more into my feminine and allows me to relish in my deliciousness. By embodying the Goddess at home in my safe space, it allows me to feel more courage in stepping out in the world and being my authentic self. After each shower I dry myself, stand in front of mirror and take five big belly breaths into my hara, loving my body just the way she is. I then ground myself by breathing my energy down into the Earth and back up to my Star Chakra. I also have a gorgeous chair in bathroom where I can sit and rub oil all over my body after my shower and give myself breast massage. I also treat my bedroom as a sanctuary, and as a single Mum, I like to step into my boudoir, light some candles and read a book or play with my essential oils and crystals. Every week or fortnight I also give myself foot reflexology!”
“Everyday without fail (when I’m at home that is) I have a long hot shower before I jump into bed. Then I apply lots of delicious body butter. Once a week I’ll do a full body scrub beforehand. .. It’s a little ritual that Always makes me feel sexy and sensual and really feminine.”
“Being sensual to me, is being connected to my body, listening to her wisdom and allowing Shakti to move through it freely. ‘Shakti is she who cannot be contained,’ the radiant & sacred feminine life force that lives inside us all. Giving myself time and space to feel, connecting to the mother energy within me, breathing, dancing around, moving my sensual hips, self pleasuring are all a must for me to keep myself ecstatically awakened!’
On a final note from Yogi Bhajan…
Develop a regular sadhana and you take control of your life. Develop a deep sadhana and you open the doors of experience. Commit to meet your higher Self each morning and your decisions and your life become original; your life will bear the signature of your soul; your radiance will express the meaningful intimacy of the Infinite in each moment. Immerse yourself in the joy of victory that comes from starting each day with a powerful sadhana and every challenge becomes opportunity.
Happy Self Pleasuring!