My absolute favourite films are all about love. Romeo & Juliet, Titanic, The Notebook (OK, maybe I am just a Dicaprio and Gosling fan), either way I love a good tear jerking love story. Besides, we all want that warm fuzzy ending of finding your prince charming (or princess) and falling madly in love to live happily ever after.
But how do you know if it’s true love?
How do you define between love and lust?
How do know if it’s more of a brother/sister love or a friendship love?
Sometimes, its hard to figure it out.
As a noun, love is described as ‘an intense feeling of deep affection’. As a verb, love is ‘to feel a deep romantic or sexual attachment to’.
“Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get — only with what you are expecting to give — which is everything.”
For me personally, this quote sums it up perfectly. Love is not about expectations of what the other can give to you. It’s not a selfish act. It’s about what you can give to the other, which, when you truly love someone, is everything. If you don’t want to give everything to your partner – your heart, your soul, your body, your mind – then surely you must ask yourself, why you are still with them? Why waste your time being with someone if those fireworks, those sparks, those incredible endorphins aren’t running through every single one of your veins?
There is no greater feeling in the world than to feel love and have it returned. Likewise, there is no worse pain in the world than to feel love and not feel that love returned. I was recently speaking with a close friend and we were discussing how everything in your life can be going swimingly – your job, your home life, your social life, money wise – and then bam…it can change in a click of the fingers when it comes to love or romance or a ‘crush’. This is why I find relationships so fascinating, because it doesn’t matter who you are, how rich or wealthy or fulfilled you are in your life…the minute something goes wrong (or even right) in relation to a love interest, that is all you can think about, all you can feel, all you can talk about.
And you know what? It never ends!
My Nanna is almost 80 and my Poppa (bless his soul) passed away over 6 years ago. It took Nanna years and years to get used to the idea that Poppa wasn’t coming back. After 53 years of marriage, it would be a tough ask. But Nanna has recently got back on the wagon and found herself a man…and she is like a love sick school girl all over again!! She talks about how they have’ intellectual conversations’, they go to the art galleries together and the museums and he even packed her a picnic for their first date and took along a canister of tea, coffee, white wine, water and juice because he wasn’t sure which one she would feel like. She was completely swept of her feet and still went through all the same intense feelings that we go through in our teens, 20s, 30s, 40s and beyond! Even my 90 year old Pop on my other side has been in terribly high spirits as of late after some inter-nursing-home flirtations occurring at his birthday luncheon. He lost his wife of 40 odd years last year, and I have never heard him so upbeat over the phone! Hell, they’ve got nothing to lose!
It just goes to show, that love makes you happy. Love lifts you up. Love makes you live for longer. Love gives you endorphins. Love is what we live for.
Love can strike at at any age. And no matter what your age, you will still experience those starry-eyed, cloud-floating, when-do-I-get-to-see-them-again feeling. It never ends.
The key to determine how you feel about someone is to go into your heart and ask your heart what you feel for that person.
Ask yourself, how do you define love?