It’s human nature to want to experience heartfelt love and companionship with another being. It’s a mixture of our biochemistry, the way we are wired, social conditioning and our natural instinct! It’s been proven that love makes us happier, healthier and helps us live longer. If you’ve experienced love, it’s almost impossible not to be walking with a bounce in your step, a dorky smile on your face and feeling like you’re floating along on cloud nine. And on a slightly morbid note, how many times do you hear when one elderly spouse dies, the surviving spouse follows soon after (sooner than if their partner was alive and well)? Meer coincidence or death by broken heart? The point is whether you are single or in a relationship, love rates pretty damn high in people’s lives and affects everything, or shall I say everything is affected when your love/relationship status is affected! That is, if your relationship is unhappy, YOU are unhappy.
If you have been single for years and find yourself desperate for a partner, chances are tapping your foot and being a bar-fly waiting around for the right one to come along is not helping the matter. People can smell desperation miles away. Plus there is always a reason why you are single. Maybe it’s so you have the opportunity to mature as an individual, focus on your spiritual growth or maybe you need the time to develop in your career. However, if you’re sick and tired of being single, you can manifest your dream-boat guy/girl into your life, remembering that the Universe has a plan and you can’t f%&$ with the plan…so be patient.
If you want to manifest your dreamboat partner into your life, make sure that your thoughts, words, actions and environment are aligned with that and don’t contradict your true desires. It can be as simple as making sure your surroundings welcome a partner – having a double/queen/king bed, two bed side tables, make room in your walk-in robe (yes, throw away some of those shoes you haven’t worn in years) or even creating space in your carport. It can also mean taking pride in your appearance; shaving your legs, treating your body as if it were a temple, wearing perfume or showering at least once a day (basic yes, but apparently not common knowledge in some people’s standards). By treating yourself with love and respect and focusing on the positive traits or qualities you will inevitably attract people who will show you love and respect. When you feel crappy about yourself, you are blocking all the love and good things the Universe has planned for you. Thus, when you feel good about yourself that frequency will radiate and touch everyone close to you.
The thing is, a lot of people stay in unhappy relationships out of fear of being alone. They’re scared if they leave their partner and don’t end up finding someone better; they will regret their decision and end up an old, lonely, crabby cat woman (or man). However the opposite is true. For starters, if you stay in the relationship you’re actually robbing yourself of finding true love not just for yourself but also for your partner. And secondly, if you’re doubting being with your current partner – if they tick lots of boxes but also cross lots of boxes – it means you haven’t necessarily met ‘the one’ just yet. They might have been for a period of time, but time changes, people change, circumstances change and there is no point flogging a dead horse. Besides, we may well have lots of the ‘the ones’ out there. I believe we cross paths with many soul mates in a life time – friendships, romantically, karmic, spiritually, emotionally and even strangers whom you have a 5 minute connection with. It’s about learning what you are meant to learn from each encounter and making the most from that…not clinging on because you have created a story in your mind about what should or could happen.
My mantra has always been this: I would rather be alone and happy, than in a relationship and unhappy. Just because you are alone, doesn’t mean you have to be lonely. If you gain your worth, identity, significance and certainty out of being in a relationship…honestly ask yourself if you’re in the relationship for the right reasons. These are aspects you should be able to gain from within. Are you just scared of being by yourself? No the grass isn’t always greener, but how do you know if you don’t check it out for yourself? Everyone is responsible for their own joy, and when you do what makes you feel good, you are a joy for others to be around, like a natural overflow. It all comes down to perception and what you value most in your life.
On a side note, you can’t find love, it finds you. So knowing this your dreamboat will probably come when you least expect it. Instead of waiting around for him or her to turn up on your door step, work on developing yourself physically, emotionally and mentally and when the timing is right, ‘the one’ will come along and it will feel right and run naturally and smoothly. Remember, there is nothing more attractive than someone who has their ‘shit together’.
Ask yourself…do you have any limiting beliefs about love or relationships? AKA ‘all the good ones are gone’, ‘I will never meet the one’, ‘I’m a failure if I don’t get married’. These will be inhibiting the natural flow from the Universe and are sending mixed messages to what you actually want.
Identify them, break the pattern and create new empowering beliefs like ‘I deserve the best’ or ‘I will experience true love in divine timing’.
When you do this, you will manifest and attract dream boats all over the place and you will be beating them off with a stick.